Self Care Isn't Selfish
Self care isn’t selfish,
I know that's a saying that has been floating around, self care has become a buzzword and everyone is talking about it.
And you know what? Good!
Self care isn’t selfish, you don’t need to justify it, or explain it. For a lot of us taking time to care for ourselves feels like a waste of time, you could get so many other things done, it feels over indulgent, unnecessary. But you are less productive, when you are constantly in overwhelm, in a state of fight or flight, you actually need to slow down, care for yourself first before you can show up for others.
As a yoga teacher I have talked about the importance of self care for a while, knowing that making time to come to yoga was a way to nurture yourself and fill yourself back up so you can go back out there and continue to do what you do.
But as I got into my teaching my own practice began to suffer, practicing hardly at all as most of my time was spent teaching. This is not uncommon for new yoga teachers, you are eager to teach and change the world and ironically your own self care takes a back seat.
As I continued teaching and opened my own yoga studio other aspects of my self care started to slide. I was “too busy” to get a proper night's rest, to eat three meals a day, to drink water, to take time off. It was not uncommon for me to get all the way until 2pm on nothing but coffee and my adrenals running on overdrive.
There would be times during yoga classes I was teaching where I would get light headed and would actually be worried I might pass out while I was teaching.
I felt exhausted, overwhelmed, and like I was drowning, but I was constantly complimented on how I had lost weight, and how I was such a #boss These are very coveted compliments in our society, the scary part is you never actually know how that person is feeling on the inside.
So I carried on this way for to long, all the while knowing I was ignoring this feeling inside me, knowing I should be slowing down.
I found myself sliding into depression. Having experienced severe depression only a year and a half earlier I knew my personal signs and I knew I needed support. I was referred to a psychologist and in our first session we went through the daily aspects of my life, and my first task - eating enough food to fuel my body.
When we don't eat not only are our bodies not being nourished, but our brain is deprived as well. When our brain isn't getting proper nourishment we are unable to handle stress, everything seems like a big deal. Even our emotions become overwhelming, as our adrenal glads fatigue our adrenal system begins drawing on hormones from different systems in our body to survive, to keep us going.
Self care doesn’t have to be complicated, or fancy, or expensive, self care can be and is feeding and nourishing your body throughout the day. Moving your body in a way that feels good, and supports you where you are.
Self care is getting enough sleep, drinking enough water, and making time for laughter. Its listening to music that gives you goosebumps, spending time with people that lift you up, taking time in the morning to breathe, and doing the same before bed. Its asking for help and support when you need it.
Because if you don’t take care of yourself, no one else is going to. If you don’t take care of yourself you can’t show up for anyone else, and you're only able to run on adrenal fatigue before too long or your body begins to slow you down, you become sick and are forced to rest.
Self care is one of the main ingredients to living a life that lights you up, one of the main ingredients to freedom.
Self care is a practice, its ever changing, it looks different day to day, so let go of the hard and fast rules, and find what feels good to you, and making sure your basic needs are met is the first step.
What if we cared for ourselves so deeply that we feel as if we are over flowing with joy, and love, and gratitude.
If you are ready and wanting to learn more about self care, and you are ready to let go of the feelings of not enough, not worthy, I would be honoured to have you join me for the Free Woman Movement Course & Retreat.